tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4670480657448848852024-03-13T11:49:46.131-07:00Life or something like itSheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-49662573885848534762017-08-18T12:48:00.000-07:002017-08-18T12:48:08.414-07:00Loving an addict is grieving for a person who isn't actually gone..<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">To the person who has never had to deal with an addict, you should be thankful and consider yourself to be one of the lucky few. But, please remember to not judge those who are dealing with an addict. It's not our place to judge and even the smallest comment can cause someone to loose many hours of sleep, to begin to blame themselves again, to start the healing process all over again. Loving an addict, is grieving for a person who isn't actually dead. The person that has been taken over by drugs, isn't the same person that we once knew. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">To the person who has loved an addict and has been able to let go, you too should consider yourself lucky. But, please remember to not judge those who aren't able to let go. It's not our place to judge. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Unfortunately, I am in neither of these groups. I am the person who can't just let go. Logically, I know it's the best thing to do for myself and him. Logically, I know what it's doing to me from the inside out. I know <b>all </b>of the facts that everyone is <b>always</b> telling me. I know the facts about addition almost better than anyone else I know. I know holding on to a person who has chosen this life over anything, is only causing me pain. I know I can't change him, I know I can't stop him, I know only he can save himself. I know this, I know all of this. I tell myself what everyone else has told me on a daily basis. Do people really think I like to worry 24 hours a day? Do people really think I like searching the jails or calling hospitals everyday? Do people really think I like to be treated as if I'm the crazy person in this situation? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For those of you who are able to let go and let what happens, happen, I admire your strength. I wish I was half as strong as you. But, I have my reasons and I know what I'm doing. I know that heroin has ruined my life and I've never even touched it. I know that becoming a part time detective isn't a normal thing in life. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">But let me ask you this. Imagine that you were diagnosed with an illness, that was ultimately life threatening and everyone you knew turned your back on you and called you nothing but a loser. Would this make you want to fight and keep going? Would this want to make you a better person? And what if, not only it was all of your friends that turned your back on you, but all of your family too. Even the one person that stood by you from day one. Would this make you feel like staying alive and fighting?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You see, my addict is my big brother. He has been my whole entire world from day one. Our biological father left when I was only 6 weeks old and never looked back. He too, was a drug addict and the drugs did eventually take his life. We had to protect each other and him being the only male in the house, felt he had to be the <i>only man of the house</i>. As we grew up, he was the person I turned to for just about everything, he was and is my very best friend. Some people say that twins can feel each others pain, we may not be twins but believe me I can feel his pain. I knew he was always into smoking pot or drinking as a teenager but never in my wildest dreams did I think he would turn to something like heroin. Then when I found out it was heroin, never in my wildest dreams did I think he would turn to shooting it up. Then when I found out he was shooting up, never did I think he would become a person who only lived to chase the dragon. It seemed to him that everyone had given up him, everyone had called him nothing but a junkie and wouldn't amount to anything. So, with all of this being said, I couldn't just confirm what he already thinks from everyone else. I can't just sit here and watch him kill himself and not do anything. I can't just push all of this aside and all of what we've been through out the window and not try and help him. I can't and I won't. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Helvetica Neue, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">If it wasn't for my brother, I wouldn't be the person I am today. I wouldn't be the person who has learned not to judge someone by what they do, I wouldn't be the person who has learned to love someone who doesn't want to be loved. I wouldn't be the person who has compassion and empathy for the drug addict sitting on the street corner. I wouldn't be the person that is writing this. And most importantly, I probably would have ended up in a similar situation. In spite of everything, he still protects/protected me from harm, in his own way. He never let me see him using, he never let me see what drugs looked like, if I was hurt and the doctor gave me a prescription, he always told me I better not be stupid with those, as a teenager, if I wanted to drink or smoke pot, he made sure it was with him. I guess he felt that if one of us could make it in this world, he would rather it be me than him. So, despite what he has done or does, he is and always will be my hero. </span><br />
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Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-67370132166982215492016-06-16T12:58:00.000-07:002016-06-18T07:30:53.561-07:00What's it like being a sibling of an addict?<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">I've been a sibling of an addict for as long as I can remember. Growing up, I always looked up to my older brother and often times as a high schooler went to his parties and hung out with his friends. At that time, it was the "in" thing to do. As we grew older it's almost like he is stuck there and I'm the older sibling. We thought for a moment in time, we had him back. But that was only a snap shot. I can't tell you what it's like for everyone to have a brother or a sister addicted to drugs but I can tell you from my perspective what it feels like to be the sober sibling.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Everyday, I sit and watch my mom go over and over again in her head, what she did wrong, how could her "baby" grow up to be a drug addict. The truth is mom, there isn't anything you could have done. You tried putting him in sports, we always had nice cloths, a roof over our head, food on the table, when we turned 16 you always made sure we had cars to drive. We were given every opportunity to become great. Not every parent is perfect, but raising a drug addict is something you didn't cause. Do I think that if our "dad" would have been a part of our lives would it have made a difference, no. I think this was just the way he was going to grow up. His hatred towards our biological dad, I do believe plays a part in his addictive behavior, but that's just his coping tool. So in other words, mom, you did not cause this, you can't control and you can't fix it.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Everyday, I sit on the "sidelines" as my mom goes through this process. I miss not only my brother but my mom at the same time. I miss the person he was before he thought drugs were more important than his sisters and his niece and nephew, his family in general. I miss my mom as the person she was before drugs consumed her life, I miss hearing laughter and joy. I miss being able to spend holidays and birthdays together as one family and not as two families, always worrying about what to say and not to say.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Everyday, I sit and worry and am in constant fear I will get a call from one of his friends saying we couldn't save him this time. My brother was always my best friend and hero growing up and if he wasn't here, even if I'm not talking to him, I don't know how I would go on. I know I'd have to for my children and my mom, but inside I would be dying. Growing up, we always had each other's backs. No matter what anyone did or said, I would always be on his side and he would always be on my side. If something happened to him, I would always blame myself, even if it wasn't my fault and logically I know it wouldn't be. I would always think, what could I have done to help him? Maybe if I would have talked to him more, he'd still be here? Could I have saved him? Why wasn't my love and understanding enough?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Everyday, I watch people with judgmental eyes look at, not only my brother, but other addicts as well with every bit of disgust. Every time I see this, I want to scream from the top of my lungs, educate yourself and realize these people are someone's brother, sister, daughter, son, mother, father, uncle, aunt. These people are loved by many but forgotten by many more. They become the lost people of this world because so many people haven't educated themselves on this disease. Too many, still to this day have a negative look on addiction and don't realize with the right tools and opportunities, people do recover, people do get better. It hurts my heart when I see people looking at my brother with these eyes. I wish I could educate everyone to help them understand and not be judgmental.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">Everyday, I watch as my heart gets heavier and heavier and my brother digs deeper and deeper and I can't save him. I watch as my mom becomes more and more distant and I can't save her. I watch as I become more and more overwhelmed with sadness and I can't save myself. That's why they say addiction is a family disease. Even if you don't think addiction is a disease, people are dying and dying at a rapid rate, so something needs to be done. So you ask me, what's it like to be a sibling of an addict, the answer is it's hell. It's hell on earth and I have no control over it. I have no way out of it, I have no way to save anyone from it. It's a living nightmare. And at some point, we do have to walk away, walk away from the addiction, not the person. We have to save ourselves before it's too late for us. We have to make ourselves stronger in order to help the addict.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "georgia" , "times new roman" , serif;">If you are the addict, I ask you to please reach out for help. From the bottom of my heart, your family won't judge you, won't be angry with you, all we want to do is help you. Help you become the person you used to be. Become an active member of society. We want you to be involved in our lives and be there with us, before it's too late.</span><br />
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Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-20983329535502443152015-11-10T11:42:00.001-08:002015-11-10T11:42:29.345-08:00An Open Letter to You<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Dear You,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I debated all night whether or not I should post this on Facebook, send this to you in a message privately, or just simply write it down and never share it. Then I thought about this, I need to start writing again, it's always been my outlet and if you read it or not, so be it, at least I got this off my chest. So here it goes....</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">I wrote something a while back that said "you will either hug me or hate me when this is all over", and that may be true, but at least if you hate me, I know it wasn't because I didn't try everything in my power to save you. I need to say this and make it public so that everyone else can read it too. First let me start off by saying, I love you like my own brother and always will, that will never change. With that being said, I will always choose your children first. From the very first time they met me, they have always called me Aunt Sheena and never treated me any different, I never told them or asked them to, all I did was show them love and respect. Now before you tell me that I don't know what I'm talking about, let me explain something to you. I know both sides of the story, I have lived your children's lives and I've also seen what addiction can do to a person and to a family first hand. No, I may have never been addicted to a substance, but I have lived the life through watching others. I have seen what goes on when you become addicted to something so powerful that not even your own life matters anymore. I've also been the one who has fought for the life of an addict and thankfully the life I fought for is still here. This is what I am trying to accomplish for your life.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Let me tell you who I had growing up, my mom and my brother. Yes, I did have a step-father and a younger sister, but as you may or may not know having a step-father is never the same. And don't get me wrong, I love my sister and I know she always there when I need her, but there is a bond between my brother and I that can never be broken because we shared so much that not everyone has. It was just me and my brother, while our "dad" was off smoking crack and getting drunk, sound familiar? The only difference between your children and myself is, I didn't know any of his family, I have no idea where he was born, what his mom's name was, if he has or had any siblings, I have no idea if his family ever had any kind of sickness or diseases, the only thing I knew about him was his full name and the state he lived in. I don't even know his birth date. I do, however, know how he died. He cooked himself to death. He was so high on crack and God knows what else that in his little nasty camper trailer he couldn't figure out how to open the door on a day where it was about 110 outside, so needless to say, he probably suffered when he died. Sadly, when we were notified of his passing, I don't even remember shedding one tear. Do you know how embarrassing it is for me to go to a new doctor and have them ask me about my "dads" side of the family? And I'm 30 years old! </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">You have a chance to get out of this cycle, you have a chance to be a part of your children's lives, the lives that you helped create and yet, you seem to not even care. After everything your kids have been through, your oldest daughter has repeatedly forgiven you and tried to have a relationship with you, and I've told you numerous times, they need to get angry with you, they need to let you know how they feel and then you can start rebuilding what you lost but you can't go in their faces and demand respect, that's not how the world works. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">If you knew how much I fight for your life everyday, you might feel a bit guilty. Or maybe not, I'm not sure at this point. Knowing the letters I've written on your behalf that you probably don't even know about, how I've talked to your parole officer when you got locked up again, trying to get you paroled out here so you wouldn't have to spend anymore time in prison and possibly get your life back on track, how every morning I start my day off with a cup of coffee and looking up jail records and calling the hospitals to make sure you're okay. I do this not only for myself but for your children, I don't want them to have to tell people "my dad died because of drugs."</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">You and maybe some other people may get mad at me for posting this and that's okay, I'm not writing this to make friends, I'm writing it because my heart is heavy and hurts for your children. When you're sober, you are an amazing person and could be an amazing father. Right now you're not living, you're going through each day in a drug induced stupor. Do you know how much suffering you would cause to all of us if something were to happen to you? Or do you even care? </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Sadly, as much pain and suffering you have caused your children, I don't hate you. I am very saddened by your actions and wish that I could shield all of your children from ever experiencing any of it, but I can't. All I can do is be there for them when they need someone to yell at or cry to that may understand a little better. I hope that one day you will realize what is going on and that you might try and mend what you have broken, I just hope it's not too late. I do hope the best for you and hope that you do get your life together and have all of things that you have said you wanted. Until then, I will continue to fight for your life for your children and for your children only and I will continue to be on their side, whether they are right or wrong, they are my nieces and nephews and I have to defend them and be the voice of the voiceless. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;"><br /></span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-68055519479728511522013-09-09T06:22:00.002-07:002013-09-09T06:22:42.831-07:00Can't Save the World<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">I haven't written in a while and something has encouraged me to write today. I'm not sure if it's the thought of my Grandma on my mind or other things happening in my life lately, but there are some things that I need to write and feel the need to share. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Just recently someone close to me said to me again, "Sheena, you can't save the world". I understand this, I understand that I cannot change people, people have to change themselves. On the other hand, without people like me there would be a lot more drug addicts dead and a lot more kids living on the streets. Yes, again my mind goes to addiction. So please do not tell me I can't save the world, because I will try one person at a time. When I tell you I love you, it's the truth and I don't give up on the people I love. I may get mad at you and say things that I regret, but I never stop loving you. Once you're in my mind, it's hard to get me to stop thinking/loving you. I guess this is my blessing and my curse in life. I wear my heart on my sleeve and some times I get hurt. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">I always go back to this story, but it's the one closest to my heart. My brother suffered from addiction for many years. To this day, I can't watch shows about addiction or even think about it without crying. Even with this said, I continue to do so and continue to educate myself on drug addiction. My brother is and always has been my hero in life. He's always thought he needed to protect me from the evils in life and I think that he did. I can honestly say that if it wasn't for him, I might have ended up as an addict also. In fact, I may be one, just not in the self harm way that he was. I find myself addicted to addiction and the need to help people. Which in some ways causes me just as much pain. I am always thinking about how proud I am of my brother for what he has overcome in such a short period of time. I feel like he has received a second chance on life. At his lowest point I was mad at him because he became everything he said he wouldn't but now I can say, you've been everything you said you wouldn't and you've conquered everything you said you couldn't. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">I wish that one day, I could work with recovering addicts and help them heal, because I've been on the opposing side and I think I know just enough to say I've been on the addicts side as well. I'm extremely sensitive and usually can pick up on the pain of some one's addiction. The root behind every addiction is pain. You don't wake up one day from your "normal" happy life and say I would like to stick a needle in my arm and play a game of life or death every day. It just doesn't happen that way. For me my pain and why I'm addicted to addiction is my brother and my brother in-law. My biological father also suffered from addiction, sadly, I couldn't help him, he didn't have someone like me behind him pushing him and telling him he could do it. Maybe if he got to know me, my brother and my sister better, it may have helped, instead he choose to numb his pain with drugs and alcohol. I believe I was able to save my brother and it gives me hope that I may be able to save someone else.</span> <br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">And, people may get mad at me for writing these, but honestly I don't care. It's my outlet, my way of trying to cope with what goes on in my mind. I have hard speaking things out loud but my outlet has always been writing. I saw this letter on Pinterest, yes I know "UGH, Pinterest", but I thought I would share:</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">I am a drug-abuser, I need help</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Don't solve my problems for me. This only makes me lose respect for you - and for myself.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Don't lecture, moralize, scold, blame or argue whether I'm stoned or sober. It may make you feel better, but it only makes the situation worse.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Don't accept my promises. The nature of my illness prevents my keeping them, even though I mean them at the time, promises are only my way of postponing pain. And don't keep switching agreements; if an agreement is made, stick to it.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Don't lose your temper with me. It will destroy you and any possibility of helping me.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Don't let your anxiety for me make you do what I should do for myself.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: large;">Don't believe everything I tell you. Often I don't even know the truth - let alone tell it.</span><br />
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Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-64960437482973337872012-11-06T04:57:00.001-08:002012-11-06T04:57:30.678-08:00Undone<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Since I can't find the video to this song yet, I can't share this song with anyone, so I thought I'd just share the lyrics. This is from No Doubt's new album and as many of you know, they are my favorite band. Not just because of the music they play but also because of the lyrics they write. This song gave me goosebumps from the moment I heard it. It would probably mean more to everyone else if you could hear Gwen sing it. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I'm broke,<br />Let me show you where it hurts.<br />I'm trying to be brave<br />This wasn't in my plan and nothing you can do, I've changed.<br /><br />It's such a waste<br /><br />I'm undone<br />And there's nothing I can do this time, it's all out of my hands,<br />And just when I was getting good.<br />Why's it have to end?<br />I don't understand<br /><br />And don't leave me behind,<br />This time I need you, nothing's feeling right<br />Oh, I'm in trouble, help me,<br />No one needs you more than me.<br /><br />I know,<br />I made you feel like you were lucky to have me.<br />But now I'm panicking, I'm lost, you're the one I need,<br />Be patient please,<br />And don't leave me behind,<br />This time I need you, nothing's feeling right,</span><br />
<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">'Cause I'm in trouble, help me,<br />No one needs you more than me.<br /><br />Change me back,<br />Please, change me back,<br />I don't know who I am anymore,<br />I can't take it anymore.<br /><br />And don't leave me behind.<br />This time I need you, nothing's feeling right.<br />'Cause I'm in trouble, help me.<br />No one needs you more than me.<br /><br />No one needs you more than me<!-- end of lyrics -->.</span><br />
<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-66592934123046853502012-09-08T06:11:00.000-07:002012-09-08T06:14:47.551-07:00Give Your Best Anyway...<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">As life continues to go on in my new adventure, it becomes a little harder for me to deal with everything that has happened, just in 2012. I started this year out thinking our life would still be in our little house in Arizona and me working for an organization that I loved. I really thought I would be there for years, but things do change and we have to move on. I thought Jaidyn would still be able to play with his best friends and go to school right down the street from our house. Never did I think that my life would take a complete 180 and go from loosing a little girl that holds a key to my heart, to getting her back, to dealing once again with an addiction that is more powerful than anything, becoming a part of my three nieces and nephews lives and moving across the country. I never thought I would be sitting here writing this in the middle of Illinois. This year has been an emotional roller coaster and I am ready for it to be a new year and to start over. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Don't get me wrong, the move we made was for the best for our family and I've gained new family from doing so. Family that has been very supportive and helpful and loving, but there is still a hole in my heart from leaving my home town. I guess it also hurt because there are some people who weren't very supportive in our decision and have shut us out because of their own heart ache. And I think what is worse is that it hurts my son more than it does me. You can't judge our choices without knowing our reasons. And our reasons had nothing to do with anyone but our family.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Things have been a struggle for me here, Jaidyn's attitude changed a lot and I think it's hard for him also and being 4 he doesn't know how to express what he's feeling. I do think he is happier here and has been able to experience new things, things he would never have been able to in Arizona. I know that I haven't been the nicest to my husband, but sometimes I don't mean to. I know he thinks I hate him for moving here and I truly don't. I just want him to understand that I have never lived anywhere but Arizona and have never lived this far away from my Mom. It will take me time to get used my new environment and find my place here. In a way I feel a little out of place. I know that no one here has created that or wanted that, but I can't help but feel like an outsider looking in. Things are so much different in the mid-west and anyone who hasn't experienced it is probably thinking I'm full of it, but it's the truth. I try every day to try and stay positive and pretend like I'm doing okay, but sometimes I'm not. I want to be able to call my best friend and go to her house, or call my mom and go to the mall with her. I want to get up and go to work and actually have money to go out and do things. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Without the pictures of my nieces and nephews in my head I don't know how I could actually do this. They have made the move a little easier and I'm extremely happy I am able to help them in anyway I can. I know that the older ones don't really know me and who knows, maybe don't want to get to know me, but at least that I know that I am here for them in anyway they need me to be. I know that if they call me, day or night, I will help them with what I can. I know that Lillian will now be able to get to know me and hopefully I can be the Auntie I always wanted to be. </span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway. If you find happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow. Do good anyway. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway."</span><br />
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<br />Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-68316079461016839732012-06-19T18:07:00.001-07:002012-06-20T05:52:24.019-07:00Saying Goodbye...<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">From day one, it has always been my brother and I against the world. If anyone hurt me, he'd be right by my side, if anyone or anything hurt him, I was right by his side. He and I have been through a lot together and it seems very unlikely that our relationship will change, despite the many miles that will come between us here soon. I've helped my brother through his troubles and have learned from his mistakes, and in a way I think it's part of what made me who I am today. I remember being 4 or 5 and always having to write down in school who was your hero and without hesitation I always wrote my brothers name. As we grew up and I become a mom and a wife, my perspectives have changed and I have more than one hero now, but my brother will always remain my first hero. He could always pick on me and call me names, but he would be damned if someone else called me any name. And as he went through his "troubles" I was always the first one by his side, sticking up for him and even though at sometimes, what he was doing wasn't "right", I always took his side. He truly has been the best brother anyone could ask for and I am very lucky to have him in my life. I am also very proud of everything that he has overcome in the last year. He has rebuilt his life and is now able to be proud of what he does and who he is. I only hope that it stays that way and he doesn't fall into another cycle. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">As I was driving to get Jaidyn yesterday, it suddenly hit me that in just about two weeks, I would have to say bye to my brother, the rest of my family and my amazing friends. I know it's not bye forever, it's a see you later, but this is something that I have never had to deal with before. Anytime my brother went somewhere, I was right behind him. I know what I am doing is best for my family and I know the reason why I have to do what I have to do and I am happy about our decision, it's just going to be some hard adjusting on my part.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The last few weeks, it's suddenly hit me that this is actually going to happen, my job has been replaced at work, Shane's last week of work is next week, we've paid for the rental truck, my mom has taken the time off work to drive with me the whole 22 hours it takes to get there. And I honestly don't know how I'm going to say goodbye to anyone. For the last 27 years I've lived in one place and over the years, I've gained and lost some friends, but the friends and family I have now, I couldn't ask for better. I really loved my job and I don't know if I will find anything that equals it. I don't mean to sound so sad, because I know I will have a loving family where we are going and I know that I will make new friends, but the one's I've made here have changed my life forever. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I wish I could write a letter to each and everyone that has been and is a part of my life, but honestly I don't think emotionally I can take that. If I don't seem upset about leaving, please don't let that fool you, inside I'm a mess. I've made a lot of sacrifices for the ones I love, especially my brother and my brother in-law, and I think now is the time that I need to worry about my little family and do what we think is best for us. I don't know what our life will be like in Illinois, but I do know that we have family support there and here (hopefully) and I will always have my husband and my beautiful son. As long as my son is happy, then I have no other choice but to be happy, because at the end of the day, that's what matters. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">So, I guess this blog is a letter to everyone that has touched my life and I have been blessed to know and become close to. I don't want anyone to think that because we are moving that I love anyone less or that I will suddenly stop talking to everyone. I have no intention of leaving and never looking back. I know sometimes life gets busy and I may not be able to update everyone on a weekly basis but I will try my hardest to keep in touch as often I can.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I don't know how I will be able to say goodbye to my babies in my life. For them, I want each and everyone of them to know how much I truly love them and would give my life for each and everyone. I want them to know that I will always be there for them, even though I may be 1200 miles away, I am <strong>never</strong> a phone call away. I will always be here to answer your questions that you may not want to ask your parents, I will always be here to give you hair advice, to give you make-up advice, to support you in any decisions that you make. Before I leave, I will write a letter to each of you for you to read when you get older and know I truly love you more than you will ever understand.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">This has been one the hardest decisions I have had to make and I'm not sure I can say goodbye.</span> <span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've come across to quotes that I want to share because they mean so much to me right now and I need to keep them close to I will never forget. As our new life begins in Illinois, I will try and keep my blog updated with the things Jaidyn is doing and learning and keep everyone up to date, so for my family and friends that don't look at this frequently, please do so in the future. I love everyone more than anyone can ever know.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana;">"Someday everything will all make perfect sense. So for now laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason."</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">You know, really I'm a lot of talk. I'll be the first to admit this. I always say, it's the last time I'm going to help someone, it's going to be the last time I let my heart become attached to someone, it's the last time I'm going to trust someone, and I act like I'm the tough guy, but the truth is I'm not. I do wear my heart on my sleeve, and if a person asked for my help, I'd be the first one to help him. Despite everything that is said and done, at the end of the day, it still hurts me to see someone in pain. I'd probably give the shirt off my back, if it meant that I knew they would be okay and be safe and not harmful to themselves any longer. Even though I've heard a million and one times that I shouldn't and I should let it go. Not only have I been told this, but I've been through it, I've been kicked when I was down, my heart has been stepped on when I lent it out, I've cried tears because of my kindness. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">There's a saying that you can't choose your blood but you can choose your family, well I've chosen mine and despite what anyone says, I can't give up trying. Not now, and maybe not ever, maybe not until the day I die, or the person dies. I often want to take away their illness and bring the pain upon my self and I know that can't be done but it literally hurts my every being to see someone choose a bad path in life. Because I know that they don't "choose" to be the way they are, it's a simple fact they don't know how to cope with the reality of the way their brain works, how to mend what's been broken. Maybe somethings in life can't be fixed, but the things that can be mended are what makes starting over all worth it. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I hope that what has happened recently will eventually lead me to a reason and I will figure out why it all happened the way it did, but until then I have to hold onto some hope. Even if it is just one thing I see on face book, letting me know they are okay, or one picture that is actually responded to. I have to believe that there is still some good in the evil that has take over. I have to believe that there is a reason that another baby was taken from me, that maybe the little bit of time she did spend here with me was something that I needed for something in the future. I have to believe that everything that I said and did because I was angry will be forgiven and it will always remind me to taste my words before I speak them. </span><br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-6WY4x2lm1Wk/T3fIHCFwkUI/AAAAAAAAADM/qV_KN4kpnvk/s1600/heart.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/-6WY4x2lm1Wk/T3fIHCFwkUI/AAAAAAAAADM/qV_KN4kpnvk/s320/heart.jpg" width="320" /></a></div>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-33385703802878804622012-03-25T19:05:00.000-07:002012-03-25T19:05:27.954-07:00Don't let me be misunderstood<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This song came up on my play list the other day and every time I hear it I always think I need to post this somewhere. I think that the message is really important. Some people who are incarcerated are for drug offenses and maybe if our system had a program for these offenders and offered them help when the were released, our world would be a little different. Most offenders don't have support on the outside and turn to the life of crime that led them to the system in the first place. Why wouldn't they? They'll have three meals, a roof over their heads, a bed. And guess who pays for it, we do, yet we let rapist, sex offenders, and murders wonder our streets and live a few feet away from schools. We also let serious offenders be released on bail and sit on trial for two, three years before they are even sentenced. Meanwhile, they are still on the streets committing crimes and living their lives like nothing ever happened. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">"I was watching TV the other day right and there is this white guy up there talking about black guys, talking about how young black guys are targeted. Targeted by who? America. You see one in every 100 Americans are locked up, one in every nine black Americans are locked up, and you see what the white guy was trying to stress was that, the money we spend on sending another mother fucker to jail, would be less to send his or her young ass to college. See, and another thing the white guy was stressing was that our jails are populated with drug dealers, you know crack cocaine stuff like that. Meaning due to the laws we have on crack cocaine and regular cocaine, police are only, I don't want to say only right, but shit, only logic by riding around in the hood all day and not the suburbs. Because crack cocaine is mostly found in the hood. And you know the other thing that is mostly found in you know where I'm going but why bring a mother fucker to jail if it's not going stand up in court because this drug ain't that drug, you know level 3, level 4 drug, shit like that, I guess it's all a misunderstanding.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I sit back and think, you know us young mother fuckers, you know that 1 in 9, we're probably only selling the crack cocaine because we are in the hood, and it's not like in the suburbs, we don't have what you have. Why? I really don't wanna know the answer, I guess we are just misunderstood. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">You know we don't have room in the jail now for the real mother fuckers, the real criminals, sex offenders, rapists, serial killers. Don't get scared though. I know you've seen one them sex offenders papers, but don't trip he lives right on the end of your block. Mhm yeah, that guy lives right down the street from you, sex offender on the level three drug, convicted ex-con, yeah check him out. Watch what you got, you got a daughter, son, what you got? You know what, I have a fucking daughter, you understand me and why the fuck would you bring my neighbor to jail just because the reason why he lives next door to me, isn't the same reason I live next door to him. Meaning he didn't rap his way to my neighborhood, he sold crack cocaine to get to my neighborhood. You move him out bring him to jail for life and then you move in with a sex offender? Hey you gave me a paper though right? Is that a misunderstanding because I didn't understand it. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Another thing, let me take my glasses off because I wanna see the reaction on there faces when I say this, this is why I don't respect you and nobody like you, see your the type that gets off on getting on other people. That's not good, rather un-human, I should say, I mean giving the fact that humanity were a good humanity, rather to me is helping one another no matter your color or race but this guy and people like him, they'd rather speculate before they informate, if that's even a word, you know spec before you check. Anyways meaning I'd much rather you talk to me first and see if you can lend an opinion before you link one, just my thought of good humanity. Mr. Sharpton, hold on I'm not finished with you man, Mr. Sharpton and anyone like you, you don't know me, so if your not going to try to then what you say or think about me are, whatever, it's totally Casper the friendly ghost to me and it doesn't make you a good person to criticize before you improvise. Doesn't necessarily make you a bad person either but the characteristics for heavenly into bads way,but since I am human I am good and bad, as well but I try my hardest to stay good. These other things I do and say may be bad or just not to good, but I do try, so with that said I don't vote you, I mean your only human, good or bad but I also don't respect you and I don't care if that's good or bad. You see your are no MLK, you are no Jesse Jackson, you are nobody, to me, your just another Don King with a perm, just a little more political and that just means you're a little un-human then use humans, and now let me be human."</span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><strong>I would never give up on the ones that I love, I have just become tired of trying to fix everything and everyone. So please don't twist my words around when I write this. I have been overwhelmed with addiction since I knew what the word addiction meant. And on top of trying to "fix" and making their life better, I've also had to try and "fix" my problems and make my life better. It's a heavy burden that has been placed on me. I don't regret a single day that I was consumed by "fixing" my brother or trying to make sure he was and is okay, because in the end it has paid off. But now that I have to deal with it all over again and being kicked while I am down in the process has made me tired of trying. This time it's not my brother, but still someone I care very much for and consider as my brother. </strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><strong>This time not only did we loose him suddenly, in the sense that he moved out of state and pretty much has stopped all contact with us, but I lost out on being the aunt I wanted to be. In one of my previous blogs I wrote how I wanted to be the aunt that my nieces and nephews could turn to for advice, advice they couldn't get from their Mom and Dad, I wanted to be the aunt that they would always remember as being fun and doing things with them. When she left, my heart was torn into more than two pieces, it was shattered. There was something about her that drew me to her and I wanted and still want to always be there for her. I can't describe the feeling that I felt the night that she was gone and the feeling I still get when I look at something that reminds me of her. It took me a good two weeks before I was able to fall asleep without holding her pink sock monkey. </strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><strong>At this very moment, if someone were to ask me if I am mad at what happened, I would answer honestly, hell yes I'm fucking mad. I'm not mad at any person really, I'm mad at the addiction, mad at the pain it causes families. I'm mad that a person would allow an addiction that will eventually lead to their own death get in the way of happiness and growth. The addiction most certainly becomes the families addiction and it is the most selfish act I've witnessed. </strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><strong>I think that this hurts me more because not only is my son being effected by it now and is old enough to realize that this person is "sick", but I've tried so much and it seems to go unnoticed. I would give the shirt off my back if it would mean that he would get better and be the person I know he can be. Would I change what we did for him in the past? Absolutely not. As stupid as this sounds, maybe I would have tried harder. </strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><strong>I'm not sure how many people can relate to what I am feeling and for those of you who can relate to it, I truly am sorry and I don't wish this feeling upon anyone. It really does make your whole body ache, your stomach turn, and your heart becomes very heavy. I tried to take a step in overcoming my addition to him by just removing any contact I could have with him, but my brain doesn't shut off and subconsciously, I was still contacting him. I held onto that hope that I would get an answer back and that he would be okay. But once again my hope was crushed. I still hold onto that hope and am trying to remember not to be disappointed by the outcome. </strong></span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><strong>"Sometimes you have to accept the fact that some people are going to stay in your hearts forever, even if you are long ago gone in their hearts." It's a sad feeling but it's something I have to accept. </strong></span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-25613593167933981932012-02-28T17:02:00.000-08:002012-02-28T17:02:13.056-08:00Let's end it on this<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">My heart is heavy, my mind is tired.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It's a heavy burden that has been placed upon me,</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">yet, I still let it take control and can't let things be.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">When I see your face or hear your voice,</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">It takes all of my being not to cry because of your choice.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I don't think you realize how important you are to me,</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I don't think you realize how things could be.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Instead of letting us help you, you choose to use your vice,</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">and nothing we do or say will change your way.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You don't know how long it's been since my mind hasn't wondered,</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Is he okay, is dead?</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I've been plagued by this vice since the day I was born.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">No one can change who I am, It's who I've become because of this choice.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Even when I sit in the corner and no one hears my voice. </span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I don't understand how one could choose this path,</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I wish I could get it through to you and let you do the math.</span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Instead it's just one more sip from the bottle, one more hit from the pipe, one more prick from a needle, just one more night...</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You see in the past and I had a dream, a fantasy, </span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I thought that it would last, <br />
Then one, two, three, four, the months were flying by <br />
They soared, and it's my gut feeling <br />
It's not happening, so... <br />
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Let's end it on this <br />
Give me one last goodbye</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">You see it's hard to face, the addict that's inside of me <br />
I want to fill my glass up, with you constantly,</span><br />
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I've been here before, but I've never ever felt this sure. <br />
And now I know I've been dreaming,<br />
And your actions, have insulted me.<br />
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I open up, you ignore me, you've changed and you're not the same at all, <br />
And if I could turn back the pages of time I'd rewrite your point of view,<br />
Washed up to the shore, given one last chance <br />
To try some more, but I'm tired, I'm freezing <br />
Let's stop and call it history</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><strong><em><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif; font-size: small;">Broken promises are around for my mind war, and my accomplishment's are interrogating me,<br />
Today's become tomorrow before I wanted it to be,<br />
And desperate discussions,<br />
The start of the destruction,<br />
I'll be fine, because I'm under construction everyone, <br />
So you'll have to mind the mess, <br />
I'm under some construction.<br />
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I always had to try harder, I never really could keep up <br />
Sitting in the corner with my illness and bad luck, <br />
But in this humble place I'm feeling like red wine,<br />
And I hope to get better with some time, <br />
I'll be fine, with some time, I'll be fine.<br />
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I concentrate on empty spaces,<br />
A passive pondering of blackness,<br />
Sit down, shut up, uncontroled obsessions<br />
Your absence, it exhausts me<br />
I always panic when I'm left.<br />
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Today I feel destructive,<br />
Today who cares about myself,<br />
I'll live in denial,<br />
And I'll beat up my head,<br />
And I'll eat all the chocolate.<br />
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I can't control my feelings,<br />
I sip on dreams and choke on real things,<br />
Detatch myself of preservation.<br />
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The fears start coming when I forget,<br />
I always panic when I'm left.<br />
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Today is gonna be simple,<br />
My heart will go lazy,<br />
No one to impress,<br />
No smile is required.</span></em></strong></span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-56721906311939665092012-02-05T18:43:00.000-08:002012-02-05T18:43:35.933-08:00A Little Piece of My Heart<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Once again my addiction has gotten the best of me and addiction has plagued my family. As much as we try to put it in the back of our heads, it just can't be done. There is always something going through our head wondering and worrying. I know on our part it's something we can not control, but on the addicts side it's one of the most selfish acts I know of. I've come to realize this and realize as much as we try we can not control some one's life. We always will want the best for our loved ones and for our family, but sometimes the cards aren't laid out as we wish. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">This last time addiction took a hold of my every thought, it took a piece of my heart along with it. I can't tell you how bad it hurt and still to do this day don't know the reason behind any of it. In the end though, I can say I'm extremely happy I got to spend the time I did with those I love. I can't say if it will be last time I will say bye to someone or say I love you to someone, but as long as I know I did and will continue to, I can't do anything else. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">It's an awful disease that controls some one's every thought and resource and as much as we try to fix the person, we can't fix anything if they don't want to be fixed. I just hope that everyone knows that there is help out there and there are people who will support and love you, if you choose to take the path of recovery. I always tell people, if someone has asthma or diabetes would we not want them to get help? Addiction is the same thing, yes the person has a choice to pick up the needle, the pipe, the bottle of beer, but sometimes the addict in them takes control and they can't stop. Behind every addict there is a sad and lonely person and someone who needs help and doesn't know how to ask. You don't pick up the habit of numbing your feelings because you're happy with your life, you pick up the habit because you can't process the reality of a situation. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">No matter the person who has this illness, it's often the loved one's who suffer the most. And it's always the children who play the silent victim. The best thing we can do for any person with this illness, as much as it pains us, is to let them hit rock bottom and let them come to us and say enough is enough, I need help.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia;">I'm not a fan of 2pac but the lyrics in this song are pretty meaningful in a situation like this. I hope that someone in this situation gets help before it becomes to late.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I know that maybe I'm over sensitive and it shouldn't effect my life the way it does, but I can't help it. I try to be the best person I can be and lately this has been tested and don't know how long I can keep my mouth shut. Every day, I am tested again and try to put a smile on my face and accept the fact that this was the life that was given to me and the life I chose. I chose to help people, I chose to become attached, I chose to love, but why do I have to be punished for loving and helping someone too much?</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I often am a good judge in charater and good judge on things that will happen. I knew that it would and I try to speak my up and no body takes me serious. I'm not sure how much more I can take mentally and physcially. I think what hurts me more is that it effects my son, it's always harder on the parent but it still effects him and it breaks my heart. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I am thankful for the friends and family that I do have, but it's always going to be hard for me now to trust and to open up to anyone. I feel like I have to put a barrier between someone and my heart. I can only do so much and I guess that I have done all that I can. I can only hope that in time it will be okay and my heart will heal. </span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-49568782636589571732012-01-16T08:55:00.000-08:002012-01-16T08:55:25.399-08:00The silent victim<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">As I was cleaning the house this morning I was thinking about how many people and families are effected by addiction and how people truly are naive about this horrific diease. I realize that people do have choices in their life and can choose to not become part of a statistic. Maybe that's my addiction is thinking to much about pepole who have been effected and about people who struggle with it. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I've come to realize that even the families of a person who is addicted to drugs can be naive and sometimes worse than strangers. And sadly, children are often the silent victim of drug abuse. The children that are brought into this world were not asked to be born, yet they were given to us as a gift. If you abuse that gift then you have to face the consequences. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I asked my self this several times over the passed few days, would we want to be in a world where we could not see our children grow, smile, learn, laugh, or become the people they are molding themselves into? Would we want to be far away from them and not know what or how they are being treated. Every day we choose to agrue and fight brings us that much closer to being pushed away. Then again, the silent victim become the one that suffers. People often make their children the chess players, if you will, in their life and how they play their games. The challenge of this power is how to use it and not to abuse it. When you abuse it, it reverses on you and only hurts the innocent.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">The most important thing to remember when coping with addition or someone who is an addict is they need support. If they don't have the support they need they will fall right back into the habits they have become accustomed to. I also want to make a point of how important family really is and how it can effect a person, negative or positive. One day someone can be right by your side and the next you may never be able to speak to them again. Life is to short to be mad and angry. Remeber also, who has been by your side and who has not. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">We've all chosen the situations we've put ourselves in, the only person you can truly count on is yourself. You have to make the choice to over come any obsticles in your way, you have the power to say no, and only you have the power to take your self out of the situation or make the best out of it. We can not change the past, we can not predict the future, we can only make the best out of the present. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I've been very blessed with amazing friend, family, nieces, and nephews. Each day I realize a little bit more about the hand that I was dealt and what path I want my future to take. I'm trying not to take things so personally, I'm trying not to care so much about what I can not control. I know that I have a big heart and most of the time I wear it on my sleeve. Sometimes, I get hurt in the end. In all that I've done, I can honestly say that it was meant well. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Sometimes in reaching out to those you love isn't easy and sometimes they don't want your help. I know this and I know that every support that person has makes them one step closer to being okay. I can not save the world, but I can try one person at a time, starting with the ones I love. I guess I have to find my balance. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I've recently read a book called "Madness" and it made me think a lot about mental illness and it's impact on people and their loved ones lives. I myself suffer from mental illness, it may not be as bad as some people's but nonetheless, it's still a mental illness. It's not something that I'm proud of or something I choose to share that often. A lot of times, I try to hide it and have become pretty good at doing so. I do admit that I do have an addiction to pretty much my brother and sometimes I do get a little obsessed about helping others. Sometimes it doesn't do me any good and I end up getting hurt, but sometimes, on the rare occasion it actually helps and makes someone happy. I guess that's all I can ask for. It took me 29 years for my brother to get the help he needed, yet I still have this addiction to him. I know I can't control what he does, he'll be 30 this year, yet I still have uncontrollable thoughts about him. I worry, I try to help him, I often feel sorry for him. Not that he's in a bad situation but because I wear my heart on my sleeve and don't know how to say no. My addiction doesn't just stop at my brother either, it has basically become an addiction to anyone who I think I can help. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I wish I could make people understand my thought process, my way of thinking. It's not something that I want for my self. I wish I could just make these thoughts go away, not care what people think, just relax and not worry so much. But when someone needs help or someone could benefit from me doing something, I can't stop thinking about it. I guess this is what you call obsessive compulsive disorder. My brain doesn't shut off, it keeps thinking about ways to "fix" this person. My husband often tells me, I can't save the whole world. I understand what he is saying, but to me and my brain it doesn't do any good to say things like this. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I do have to give credit to my husband, who has put up with madness and manic episodes. I know that he doesn't fully understand mental illness and why sometimes I react the way I do, but he has really stuck by me no matter what. I try to explain to him, it's not something I can turn off, it's not something I want for myself, for him, for our son. It's something that I am trying to control and something that I work very hard on. I try every day to tell my self it's just money, it's just a mess, it's just dirt on Jaidyn's hands, but my brain won't stop thinking about it until it's "fixed". I don't know how else to explain these thought patterns. And I guess it won't really ever go away. I just need to find that balance between obsessing and "normal". </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I guess I'm writing about this today because I did get my feelings hurt today and once again I can't stop thinking about it and it wasn't even that big of a deal. My whole life, I've felt "left out" and not really "wanted". I do know that isn't true, but sometimes when you are teased or feel like someone is being chosen for things over you and your feelings, it kind of sticks with you and it doesn't just go away over night. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I have always kind of put my thoughts together with music, I don't know if anyone really knows that, but most of the time every song I listen too, or every song I really like has a meaning to me. </span><br />
<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I just hope that putting my self out there and letting people know that mental illness is found everyone that maybe one day, I can reach out and help someone. In the mean time, I will try my best to make the best life for my self, my husband, and my son.</span> <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-RpuHxzL7VoY/TudfOBlevTI/AAAAAAAAACs/U_yk4ZoFOOQ/s1600/Wedding.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/-RpuHxzL7VoY/TudfOBlevTI/AAAAAAAAACs/U_yk4ZoFOOQ/s200/Wedding.jpg" width="150" /></a></div><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Run, running all the time<br />
Running to the future<br />
With you right by my side<br />
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Me, I'm the one you chose<br />
Out of all the people<br />
You wanted me the most<br />
<br />
And I'm so sorry that I've fallen<br />
Help me up, lets keep on running<br />
Don't let me fall out of love<br />
<br />
Running, running, as fast as we can<br />
Do you think you'll make it?<br />
We're running, keep holding my hand<br />
It's so we don't get separated<br />
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<strong>Be, be the one I need<br />
Be the one I trust most<br />
Don't stop inspiring me</strong></span><br />
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Sometimes it's hard to keep on running<br />
We work so much to keep it going<br />
Don't make me want to give up<br />
I really hope you'll make it<br />
We're running, keep holding my hand<br />
It's so we don't get separated<br />
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</span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-4285320359560786232011-12-05T17:12:00.000-08:002011-12-05T17:12:12.318-08:00They can all get f**ked, just stay true to you....<span style="color: magenta; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I've been trying to figure out a way to express what's been going on, there isn't really a way to express it. I was on my way to work this morning and my iPod was on shuffle and this song came up, it fits my feelings pretty much. I had to share it and had to make my voice count. Seems like lately, I've been on the back burner of so many. I've been trying to keep my head up and just think about my son, sometimes it's just hard. </span><br />
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<span style="color: red; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Lately I've been hard to reach<br />
I've been too long on my own<br />
Everybody has their private world<br />
Where they can be alone<br />
<br />
Are you calling me?<br />
Are you trying to get through?<br />
Are you reaching out for me?<br />
I'm reaching out for you<br />
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I'm just so fucking depressed<br />
I just can't seem to get out this slump<br />
If I could just get over this hump<br />
But I need something to pull me out this dump<br />
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I took my bruises, took my lumps<br />
Fell down and I got right back up<br />
But I need that spark to get psyched back up<br />
And in order for me to pick this shit back up<br />
<br />
I don't know how or why or when<br />
I ended up this position I'm in<br />
I'm starting to feel distant again<br />
So I decided just to pick up this pen<br />
<br />
Up and try to make an attempt to vent<br />
<br />
And I know some shit's so hard to swallow<br />
But I can't just sit back and wallow<br />
In my own sorrow but I know one fact<br />
I'll be one tough act to follow<br />
<br />
Here today, gone tomorrow<br />
But you'd have to walk a thousand miles<br />
<br />
In my shoes, just to see<br />
What it's like, to be me<br />
I'll be you, let's trade shoes<br />
Just to see what it'd be like<br />
<br />
To feel your pain, you feel mine<br />
Go inside each others' minds<br />
Just to see what we'd find<br />
Look at shit through each others' eyes<br />
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Don't let 'em say you ain't beautiful<br />
They can all get fucked, just stay true to you<br />
So don't let 'em say you ain't beautiful<br />
They can all get fucked, just stay true to you<br />
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I think I'm starting to lose my sense of humor<br />
Every thing's so tense and gloom<br />
I almost feel like I gotta check<br />
The temperature of the room<br />
<br />
Just as soon as I walk in, it's like all eyes on me<br />
And so I try to avoid any eye contact<br />
'Cause if I do that then it opens the door<br />
For conversation, like I want that<br />
<br />
I'm not looking for extra attention<br />
I just wanna be just like you<br />
Blend in with the rest of the room<br />
Maybe just point me to the closest restroom<br />
<br />
I don't need no fucking man servant<br />
Trying to follow me around and wipe my ass<br />
Laugh at every single joke I crack<br />
And half of 'em ain't even funny like<br />
<br />
Ha! Sheena you're so funny man<br />
You should be a comedian, god damn!"<br />
Unfortunately I am<br />
I just hide behind the tears of a clown<br />
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So why don't you all sit down<br />
Listen to the tale I'm about to tell<br />
Hell, we don't gotta trade our shoes<br />
And you ain't gotta walk no thousand miles<br />
<br />
In my shoes, just to see<br />
What it's like, to be me<br />
I'll be you, let's trade shoes<br />
<br />
To feel your pain, you feel mine<br />
Go inside each others minds<br />
Just to see what we'd find<br />
Look at shit through each others eyes<br />
<br />
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Nobody asked for life to deal us<br />
With these bullshit hands we're dealt<br />
We gotta take these cards ourselves<br />
And flip 'em, don't expect no help<br />
<br />
Now I could've either just sat on my ass<br />
And pissed and moaned<br />
Or take this situation in which I'm placed in<br />
And get up and get my own<br />
<br />
I was never the type of kid<br />
To wait by the door and pack his bags<br />
I sat on the porch and hoped and prayed<br />
For a dad to show up who never did<br />
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I just wanted to fit in<br />
Every single place, every school I went<br />
I dreamed of being that cool kid<br />
Even if it meant acting stupid<br />
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And Grandma always told me<br />
Keep making that face and it'll get stuck like that<br />
Meanwhile I'm just standing there<br />
Holding my tongue tryna talk like that<br />
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'Til I stuck my tongue on that frozen stop sign pole<br />
At 8 years old<br />
I learned my lesson then<br />
'Cause I wasn't trying to impress my friends no more<br />
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But I already told you my whole life story<br />
Not just based on my description<br />
'Cause where you see it, from where you're sittin<br />
It's probably 110% different<br />
<br />
I guess we would have to walk a mile<br />
In each others shoes at least<br />
What size you wear? I wear 10's<br />
Let's see if you can fit your feet</span><br />
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<span style="color: red; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Lately I've been hard to reach<br />
I've been too long on my own<br />
Everybody has their private world<br />
Where they can be alone<br />
<br />
Are you calling me?<br />
Are you trying to get through?<br />
Are you reaching out for me?<br />
I'm reaching out for you<br />
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To my babies<br />
Stay strong, Mommy and Auntie will always be here</span><br />
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<span style="color: red; font-family: "Helvetica Neue", Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And to the rest of the world<br />
God gave you shoes to fit you<br />
So put 'em on and wear 'em<br />
Be yourself man, be proud of who you are<br />
Even if it sounds corny<br />
Don't ever let anyone tell you you ain't beautiful</span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-19442368518217409522011-11-28T18:56:00.000-08:002011-11-28T18:56:01.157-08:00Last time<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">This is the last time, you say<br />
After the last time today.<br />
Not even sure what I did</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Nothing to hide, but my pain</span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">You give a hundred reasons why<br />
And say you're really gonna try<br />
If I had a nickel for every time<br />
I'd own the bank<br />
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Thought that I was the exception<br />
I could rewrite your past<br />
You were the greatest<br />
But you'd rather contiue the chase<br />
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You don't even listen to what I say</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">'Cause the game you'd rather play</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I try to make you see,</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I'd rather not be the the one to say,</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">but sometimes it just is that way.</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I don't want to be the bad guy,</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I'd rather be on your side.</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;"><br />
Wanna be your lover, and not you're fucking back up plan<br />
Can't be your savior, I don't have the power<br />
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You say you have to do what's right,<br />
Whatever, if it helps you sleep at night</span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">You've become what you despise<br />
<br />
You had the world in the palm of your hands<br />
But your fucking choking<br />
<br />
You should be my teammate<br />
I thought I could change your fate<br />
You say that you love me<br />
But you don't ever show me.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">All I do is try,</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I'm sorry I can't be what you want,</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Seems like all I do is cry.</span><br />
<span style="color: #674ea7; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">All I want is for you to come back.</span><br />
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<span style="color: #8e7cc3; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">With this being the last blog I post on Facebook, I want to say thank you for those of you have read them and thank you for those who will continue to read them. Somethings in my life just need to change. I've tried all I could, I've given all my efforts, I'm out of answers.</span>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-65719918270762048332011-11-18T18:13:00.000-08:002011-11-18T18:13:46.523-08:00If you're coming over to see my house please make an appointment....<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Really I haven't had any thing to write about in the past few weeks. Even though my mind goes a mile a minute, it's been hard to actually sit down and write about anything. When you are a full time mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, and work full time, things can often get a little crazy. I often try and tell my self to calm down, to take it one day at a time. There are more important things in life, but like anything else, it's easier said than done. With having a three year old, you often wonder if you are doing the right thing, are you teaching them the skills they need to begin school, are you doing the right thing to make them ready for life. I guess we don't know the answers to these questions until the day they are actually grown and you can see the life they have created for themselves and the life you helped guide.</span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">My sister and I are 5 years apart, so I remember her being little and when she did her first things. I remember when she was about 3 or 4, she started signing songs and I always thought it was hilarious that this little annoying person (at least that's what I thought she was at the time) could even know the words to the songs. Now as I became a parent and have a three year old, I remember these memories and it makes me sad a lot of times to think how big my son has gotten and that he is now going to form his own opinions, his own thoughts, his own likes and dislikes. Sometimes he knows more about current music than I do. He recently has come home and started signing songs from the radio that I have no clue who signs them. The songs I do know, I try to get for him and of course we listen to them at least 5 times on the way to and from school. So needless to say, I know all the words to I'm sexy and I know it. </span><br />
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<span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">You often hear things about "terrible twos", I don't believe a word of that. Not that three is a bad age, but it defiantly makes a person sit and think about the important things in life. He seems to make my days go by faster, he always makes me smile daily, he always pushes my buttons daily, and he always manages to make me yell at least once a day. I often have to take a step back and remember he still is little, he still can cry and need his Mommy, he still is not capable of explaining his every need or want. I think most of this is because he acts so much older than he actually is. Every day though he manages to teach me something new and makes me think about things in a different way.</span><br />
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</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">As much as I write about addiction and about the things in my life that could be better, I always need to remember that there is the most amazing little boy who needs me, who wants me, who makes my life and every day events that much better. </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">I just wanted to end this with a quote that someone posted on Face book. I think it holds true to any mother. I realize that sometimes I am a little obsessive about cleaning and keeping things clean: </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><span class="messageBody" data-ft="{"type":3}"><strong><span style="color: magenta; font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Dirty dishes prove I feed my family. Full trash can means I clean up after them. Messy floors mean I let my child have fun. Pile of unfolded laundry means I keep my family in clean clothes. Wet bathroom means my kid took a shower! So the next time you walk into my house and see a "mess" think twice before you judge. If you come over to see us, come on in...if you're coming over to see my house please make an appointment.</span></strong> </span></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"></div>Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-73605734602848899082011-11-18T12:55:00.000-08:002011-11-18T12:55:51.058-08:00You've become what you despiseIf it's not one thing it another right? At least, that's the way it seems in my life right now. We've got one addiction taken care of for right now and in comes another. I feel like all I do is fight addiction for other people. It literally makes my stomach hurt. Recently, my son has come across music that he likes and one artist was Katy Perry. Never did I think that a song of hers would make me cry, but I was wrong. I've changed some of the words, for obvious reasons but this song fits perfectly.<br />
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This is the last time you say<br />
After the last line you break<br />
It's not even a holiday<br />
Nothing to celebrate<br />
You give a hundred reasons why<br />
And say you're really gonna try<br />
If I had a nickel for everytime<br />
I'd overbank<br />
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<strong>Thought that I was the exception<br />
I could rewrite your addiction<br />
You could've been the greatest<br />
But you'd rather get wasted</strong><br />
You fall asleep during the day<br />
'Cause the pills you take are more your forte<br />
I'm not sticking around to watch you go down<br />
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Wanna be your sister<br />
Not your f****** mother<br />
Can't be your saviour<br />
I don't have the power<br />
I'm not gonna stay and watch you circle the drain<br />
Watch you circle the drain<br />
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You say you have to write your rhymes<br />
Whatever helps you sleep at night<br />
<strong>You've become what you despise</strong>A stereotype<br />
You think you're so rock and roll<br />
But you're really just a joke<br />
Had the world in the palm of your hands<br />
But you f****** choked<br />
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Should've been my team mate,<br />
Could've changed your fate,<br />
You say that you love me<br />
You won't remember in the morningSheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-804250000471197352011-09-22T18:53:00.000-07:002011-09-22T18:53:13.063-07:00Buggie....When I started this journey of motherhood 3 and half years ago, never did I think my days would be filled with superheros and hot wheels. From the day he was born and I looked in his big brown eyes, I knew he was meant for greatness. Everyday I learn, see and hear something new. Never did I think I would be cutting some one's hair like Peter Parker or Iron man, but my son has managed to make these magical things happen. Everyday he teaches me something new and everyday he learns something new.<br />
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When I started this journey I tried to do everything by the book, I read every baby book I could, I read every article I could, then again Jaidyn managed to teach me that you can't go by books, you can't rely on articles, you have to rely on your heart. He has taught me to believe, to dream, to feel, to make things happen that I could have never thought possible. <br />
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When I started this journey never did I think my nights would be filled with story book readings, kisses, and snuggles. I never thought I would be putting a sleeping angel to bed. And again he taught me that watching him sleep is the best thing I could see all day. <br />
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When I started this journey I did know one thing, that my son, my angel, my star, my everything, would help me breathe, help me get through my struggles, my life and make things better. I did know that with just one look into his eyes I would know what love is, I would know what laughter is and I would know what happiness is. <br />
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I can't imagine my life any other way, I can't imagine what it would be like without having this amazing little person in my life. He has helped me grow, helped me breathe, helped me laugh, helped me be a better person. I believe everything happens for a reason and he was brought into my life and brought into this world for a reason. I don't know what his calling is yet, but I do know it will be great and he was brought into my world so I wouldn't feel lost, I would be able to keep my head up, I would be able to smile even though I don't feel like it.Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-467048065744884885.post-65055011759262268942011-09-19T17:37:00.000-07:002011-09-19T17:37:00.228-07:00Beauty ContestI started this blog about a week ago and couldn't figure out what I wanted to write about. So many thoughts running through my head. Any ways, this week I thought it would be fitting to write about my struggles, that most people might think I'm out of my mind but it's a really struggle I go through everyday (you can ask my husband, I think I drive him batty). Here it is....... Weight. I've never been super thin, but after I had Jaidyn I could never get back to where I wanted to be, and I know (because I've heard this from so many people) that after you have babies your body goes through a lot of changes. I get this and understand, however, with this said, I have had all the blood work done possible to test everything possible and still have not received any answers. I do work out everyday, I am lucky enough that my work provides us with a gym. I don't eat red meat, I eat healthy and try and take care of my body as much as I can. Yet with all this being done, nothing, nada, has come off. I can't tell you how frustrated I am with the whole process, the other day while on the elliptical I thought to my self "Why am I doing this? It doesn't work for me any ways." It's an endless cycle that no matter what I probably won't be happy with the way I look. <br />
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At this point I'm not sure what else I can do, I've tried weight watchers, I've tried counting calories, eating off smaller plates, etc... Nothing seems to work. I'm at a loss for words and don't know where to start or begin. I've been to my doctor and was given little advice, I don't know where to get a second opinion or even what I should do. I have been thinner which is why it's so frustrating to me. It's gotten to the point where I hate shopping, I hate looking at my self in the mirror. My self esteem has become very low. I can't afford to go to the weight loss clinics, although I would love to. <br />
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<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><iframe allowfullscreen='allowfullscreen' webkitallowfullscreen='webkitallowfullscreen' mozallowfullscreen='mozallowfullscreen' width='320' height='266' src='https://www.youtube.com/embed/9VbCOs2zIv4?feature=player_embedded' frameborder='0'></iframe></div>I guess I am reaching out to see if anyone out there has any advice.. For those of you who don't know me, I am a huge No Doubt/Gwen Stefani fan and I found this one probably about ten years ago that really sums up everything. Not only for me but for all females. Please if you have advice, I would love to hear it. I have pretty much tried everything.Sheena Ashleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15059652299274932516noreply@blogger.com0